tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post4149617231137641725..comments2023-09-08T10:27:30.095+01:00Comments on Fifty, Fat and Grumpy: The Positive Sides of Being Fat?Fat Grumphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14563154952353175490noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-24847729597332366982010-07-19T01:08:12.685+01:002010-07-19T01:08:12.685+01:00I gave you an award
http://deepdarkweightloss.blog...I gave you an award<br />http://deepdarkweightloss.blogspot.com/Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348740719854853661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-30541253054078966272010-07-18T06:06:56.322+01:002010-07-18T06:06:56.322+01:00I'm not uncomfortable being fat. O.K., that...I'm not uncomfortable being fat. O.K., that's not true. I don't mind being fat in that I don't care what people think about my exterior. All the same, I've reached a size where I am, literally, uncomfortable.<br /><br />I'm one of those people who lost a bunch of weight (95 pounds) only to regain it plus some. I now have a memory of being healthier just like I have a memory of all those decadent desserts.<br /><br />If the memory of being healthier were so much warmer and happier, I wouldn't be trying so hard to regain control of my diet and exercise habits right now.<br /><br />This is a one-moment-at-a-time process, as you all know. Really, it's a one-decision at a time process.<br /><br />There will be days when that 150-calorie ice cream cone at McDonalds will fill a void, and feel like a treat. And, there will be days when that same "treat" will set of a chain reaction that will end up in a swollen food journal.<br /><br />I think it's perfectly normal to experience a wide range of emotions during the weight loss experience. Some days are simply just better than others.<br /><br />And, I think you're correct -- this is really an exercise in self-love.<br /><br />Just keep pushing forward. You'll eventually reach your goal. But, on those days when you slip up or need a break, don't punish yourself -- just make better decisions next time.<br /><br />To your health,<br />Rhi B.<br />a.k.a. @AngryFatWomanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-720421919087252992010-07-14T23:02:53.469+01:002010-07-14T23:02:53.469+01:00Just found your blog and can see a lot of my own t...Just found your blog and can see a lot of my own thoughts in yours. But I tend to keep things inside and not write about them, so you would never know this from reading my blog. And I have only been blogging for a few months and don't yet feel comfortable in some ways, although the people who jump in and leave comments are helping me with that comfort level.<br /><br />I will tell you that it is not easy for any of us. If it was easy, we wouldn't need this little support group. Luckily we don't all fail at the same time. When one fails, falls off the wagon, whatever you want to call it, the others in Blogville jump in to encourage, support, offer a hand or a handkerchief. And we do disagree from time to time.<br /><br />I think you have taken a positive step in blogging. As Screaming Fatgirl said, it is the little things we do that become habits and then we pick up another good habit, and then another.<br /><br />The two things that are helping me are watching my portion sizes (no seconds) and keeping my body moving (mostly walking). I did not like the walking at first, but now I look forward to it. With the portion sizes, it is difficult at first, but it gets easier.<br /><br />I am trying to lose weight mainly for health reasons, but of course there are other reasons. By the way, I will be 53 next month, so I know some of the challenges age brings. But there are advantages, too, and those are what are going to get me to my goal and enable me to maintain it.<br /><br />You are doing fine...just having a bit of trouble getting started. Just read other blogs and pick up a few good habits and you will get there!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15799781800542758688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-23547721706752488072010-07-14T20:50:12.248+01:002010-07-14T20:50:12.248+01:00I totally get where you are! I've mourned for...I totally get where you are! I've mourned for my old way of life that now seems so carefree. I have to pause and remember that it really wasn't. I've been in a diffucult place rebelling (I think) against this new way of life. I feel like my blog isn't really reflective of the true me because I don't think I'm so down all of the time. I also vowed, I would not become one of those diet fanatics. So far, I think I've made good on that promise. I'll eat my way, others can eat theirs and we'll all just get along, right?<br />LoriLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348740719854853661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-12651473264477589472010-07-14T20:48:19.573+01:002010-07-14T20:48:19.573+01:00I am not so grumpy these days, but I also think a ...I am not so grumpy these days, but I also think a bowl of ice cream would be good instead of a drop in the scales.. There I go again dreaming.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02798258368914735601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-30244556149838870512010-07-14T20:10:44.422+01:002010-07-14T20:10:44.422+01:00I am totally grumpy. I'm with you, baby.I am totally grumpy. I'm with you, baby.NewMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11172571318565002724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-22609058301623936812010-07-14T14:28:41.378+01:002010-07-14T14:28:41.378+01:00I think one reason for all the cheer is that we...I think one reason for all the cheer is that we're making sure that we are upbeat and positive <i>for ourselves</i>. Because seriously, sometimes that pound cake looks much better than a drop on the scale would... or it seems like it at the time.<br /><br />I baked two last week. I know whereof I speak.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14775794907218052899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-42978698837617467092010-07-14T14:22:15.604+01:002010-07-14T14:22:15.604+01:00Like you, I've confined all my weight loss tal...Like you, I've confined all my weight loss talk and plans to the blogsphere. I don't want to trot it out in front of friends or have people start walking the other way when they see me at the office. Of course, not telling anyone also means they won't know if I've tried and failed either...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6042613739572921643.post-82454495575740528792010-07-14T13:52:18.508+01:002010-07-14T13:52:18.508+01:00Hmm. I don't know if I'm "grumpy"...Hmm. I don't know if I'm "grumpy", but I'm definitely not "gung-ho". I think people who are all over their weight loss processes have a way of thinking that not everyone can identify with. Their weight loss and body image become their identity. They believe they can cast off all that was bad about them by ditching their eating habits, exercising and sculpting a more society-friendly physique. <br /><br />Personally, and you may know this already from my blog, I believe this is usually a dead-end road for most folks and related to why many people regain the weight and more. That new identity is wallpapered over the old one, and the old one is constantly trying to get back out and tear down that paper and reassert itself. Maybe you are grumpy because you know who you are, and aren't really that interested in becoming someone else (I know I'm not). Maybe it's harder for some older people (you're only a bit older than me) to fully embrace the idea of transformation of habits because those are part of what defines us and we aren't that angry with our core selves (and we definitely have a better understanding of who and what we are).<br /><br />I agree with you that it's very much harder to focus so much on weight and food everyday. That sort of narrow definition and focus only reminds you constantly of what you do wrong whereas before you didn't feel like you failed at every turn. Initially, I was quite overwhelmed by this, but as I've weaned my attention off of the processes (which I am slowly doing as I master them) and deal with the psychological crap, it becomes less obsession and more routine. Once all of this lifestyle stuff becomes as habitual as taking out the trash, doing the laundry, or washing the dishes (which is really my goal), then it's back to being me... though "me" is going to be different at the end since the new me is someone I've got to unearth slowly from under the piles of neuroses that threaten to drive me back to the old me. :-p<br /><br />For me, I walk past the cream cakes and say, "I can have that if I want to pay the price for it," and I'll either decide to pay it or not. I used to feel like you do about the food I couldn't have - resentful and tempted, but that passed by allowing myself to indulge pretty much everyday. I can have it all, just not all at once and not in abundance. It took awhile to train that sense, but it can be done with practice.screaming fatgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.com